We are obsessed with what others think of us. We want to be liked, famous and approved. We seek attention because that makes us feel important.
We can easily be put down with unkind words and picked up if appreciated.
In organisations there is a game , it is called “What will the boss think” and yes it’s important because the boss decides the future growth within the organisation or so we think.
We seek approval of our peers because it makes us feel important and we want to belong.
Social media feeds on the inherent human desire to be liked so we post and then look back to check likes and comments.
This wanting to be liked , approved , appreciated, creates a unseen pressure and ties down our freedom , freedom to be who we are .
Freedom comes from being authentic, confident in our own skin , not wanting to be like anyone , not being a copy.
And then we have the rebels, who also are trying to project an identity of being different, rebels . Yet there is the pressure of hold an identity that is not authentic.
What if you could just drop your wanting to be like someone else , anyone else or seeking approval.
There is a famous Hindi film song in India ‘Kuch to log kahenge , logon ka kam hai kehena‘ ( people will always say something, that is their job). And you can never please everyone.
What if you can ignore what others think , and you truly can , just try it now , drop the baggage of wanting approval , and see how it feels.
Do your stuff , rock your boat , be different, be you because you are made different.
Each one of us is unique, and there is no one else like us anywhere in the world. We have our own unique gifts .
What applies to individuals applies to organisations . There is a unique story of each organisation. ‘Why’ it exists. Find that why and live that why.
Carrying an image that is not you is stressful, being authentic is liberating. And when you are genuinely authentic it reflects and you stand out. Not because you want to be liked but because you are who you are , different.
I found being authentic truly liberating experience, I blog because I want to , I express what I want to , I cycle, I sing , I create because that is who I am , I love to create , build on new ideas , grow business, mentor individuals and business to play to potential . This makes me happy.
What will others think stops people from taking the first step , from living their dreams . And it is not worth it , no point with dying with your dream in your heart.
Be YOU because everyone else is taken.