THINGS THAT NO LONGER IMPRESS ME

  1. Name brand of clothing

As long as it is comfortable and fits well I don’t care.

  1. The price of the car

My current car the Honda City is over eight years old and it serves me well , does the work of transportation when I need.

  1. Square footage of home

A smaller home is easier to maintain, I am not impressed with bigger homes.

Our current home that is around 1000 sq ft with a space for my WFH that is sufficient.

  1. Amount of money in the bank account

Nothing wrong with money , it is exchange for Value you bring to the world, it lets you live life on your own terms .

But beyond a point it only matters if you can help others or what good you can do in the community with what you earn.

The lockdowns have demonstrated how little we need to live.

  1. Gadgets we use

I do buy gadgets but as long as they serve my work beyond that I am not interested In buying the latest shiny object that is out there.

  1. Social media likes

People put out pictures of their vacations or food they eat , tell their best stories.

But I know they are only part of the story not the whole story.

I was not always like this , I have changed over time .

I understood that what truly matters is health , family , friends and freedom.

We deeply yearn for ‘Freedom’ to live life on our own terms but we start imitating the culture.

It is not a restricted lifestyle rather it is focusing on what truly matters in life.

I am sure the pandemic has been a wake up call for us to reflect on what is truly important.

Do you agree ?

P.S- ( Need to yet work on the nutrition bit )

WE LIVE A STORY

We are here for a finite time and one day nothing will matter.

Dreams and worries will be buried , turned to ashes when it all ends.

Just in a moment everything will be over.

Finally it all ends , one day sometime in the future even our planet will vanish into a void.

How can we make sense of anything.

What is the point of it all , all our struggles are meaningless.

We add meaning to this seemingly meaningless existence with our Stories.

We seek to be immortal with our Stories as we fear vanishing into a void.

Religion is a Story that gives meaning to our lives .

Country is a collective Story of the tribe.

We are willing to die for our Stories and we are even ready to kill.

We create villains, the others , fight , create divisions with our Stories.

We live and die for our Stories.

All creation happens with a Story.

We create the Story of life after death as not existing does not make sense.

Leaving a legacy is a Story of our desire to be immortal.

We stretch beyond our physical limitations all because of Stories we tell.

In our Stories we have our heroes and villains .

We admire heroes and despise the villains.

We try to be like our heroes as we admire their stories.

We learn to hate our villains.

We try enrol others into our Stories.

Then there are those who we call our leaders who tell us a Story we all buy into.

We hear their Stories, get inspired and become a part of their tribe.

We are not ok is a Story told by advertising.

We need to get somewhere from here is a Story.

From here to there is a Story.

Success is a Story so is failure.

Self identity is a Story.

Yet finally it all ends and nothing matters .

Life is just a grand Story.

We are the Stories we tell .

If this is so why not tell a Story that inspires.

We have the choice , only humans have this choice to choose their Story.

Why not have fun while the Story lasts.

Why not live a Story that makes waking up every morning exiting.

Why live a Story of fear , survival, limitation.

Why not live a Story of gratitude and love.

Remember finally it is all meaningless .

In a moment it all will just vanish.

Till then let us have hell of a ride and live this life Story fully.

Sanjay Mudnaney

#passionproject

HOW I GOT OVER MY FEARS

I had the fear of flying, the fear would begin when I boarded a flight and if there was turbulence I would be in an internal mess .

I have seen panic attacks after I saw a close relative pass away suddenly with a massive heart attack. After the incident, I would land up in ERs at night with breathlessness , I was told that I am experiencing a panic attack . Nothing helped , no advice helped .

Today I love to fly places, turbulence is ok (unless it’s real bad ( : ) . I can walk into a cemetery , talk about death and be ok , panic just vanished never to come back.

How did this change occur?

1. Face the fear : I was running away , I wanted to run away . One day , I stopped, looked at fear in the eyes . Felt the fear in my body . I did not run . I got on the other side of fear and it vanished.

2. What is the worst that can happen ? I asked this question and the answer was “I will die”. And then it struck me “I am going to die anyway one day , everyone is going to die one day , why die NOW ! I will die when I have to , let me live NOW!”

3. In this moment : Being here now , dropping the future helped . I have learnt that in this moment, this moment as I write these words , there is no problem. When I get away from this moment, in the past or the future, stories begin .

4. Accept this deeply : In this moment, now there is no problem and “this moment is inevitable” , it has already occurred. No choice , can’t do a thing . Accept deeply without resistance.

5 . This too shall pass : I am not God , I am not perfect, I do get shaken up by events in life , I do falter , but I get up , I know “This too shall pass” , it does . One day we all will be dead and gone , my parents who are no more would have lived through so many fears , what is the significance now , nothing , it’s all dust .

When you deeply understand this that we are here momentarily on a journey as visitors on this planet , you will understand that this too shall eventually pass , everything will . Yet while on the journey, let us make the best of our time to live , love and leave a legacy behind.

Sanjay Mudnaney

#passionproject

I LOST A CLIENT AND THIS IS WHAT I LEARNT

Recently one of my clients backed off just when I thought things were looking up , social media presence was up , engagement was high and now it looked the sales funnel would kick in as we identified the niche and the product offering.

And yet the client backed off , why ? “Don’t have the funds and sales have not yet happened so I am unsure of the future.”

I was disappointed, things were just falling into place and looking up . It had just been three months since we began working on the account and we had even compromised on our fees .

So what did I learn ?

1. WHO : This is the most important question, clearly decide who is your client for the product or service you wish to offer .

In this case even before I took on the client I knew that the budgets were tight and social media needs time to build presence , but I had made the mistake of taking on the business.

Looking back I would rather focus on clients who were in it for the long haul rather than let’s see what happens.

2. EXPECTATIONS : It’s important to set clear expectations . Building a brand on social media is a long term game and if the client was not ready to play for the long run , I could just have avoided taking on the client .

This is also fair for the client as they are clear of what to expect . Being optimist is good but it needs to match reality.

3. LET GO : You could make a mistake in the client you picked up but as soon as you realise that something is not clicking take a quick decision and let go . It saves time and effort for everyone .

Let go of clients ;

1. Who don’t see value and are not willing to pay for the value you add . Better focus on those that see value .

2. Who do not commit to what it takes to succeed . If you are not well and you refuse to take the pill the doctor advised, you cannot blame the doctor. Either convince the client on importance of following the plan and if they yet refuse , just get out.

It is important to FOCUS you have limited time and resources . You cannot be everything to everyone.

I feel It’s a good learning to “LET GO OF BUSINESS/ CLIENTS THAT THAT ARE NOT COMMITTED TO CREATE MUTUAL VALUE.”

#Passionproject

Sanjay Mudnaney

WHAT STOPS FROM DOING WHAT WE LOVE

The fear of unknown is real . Look at the graves , you find worlds greatest treasures buried , dreams that were not lived due to fear .

Look at a child , you find no fear , dancing, jumping , shouting, all the stuff that kids do and are not ok for us to do as adults .

Who made these rules ? The NO has killed many more dreams than anything else in our world. The “No you cannot do this” , “No you cannot have that” , “No you are not good enough .”

And this is filled with , “you Must do this”, “You must stand first” , “You must win”, “You need to have a big house and a bigger car” . Then there is comparison, “look at your friend , he has topped the class and you ?”

Then we have idols , those that we see up there , in every magazine we see their pictures, they have made it , you see their lifestyle and wish you could be like them.

We pick up a job , get into a loan for that dream house , the car . Now we are trapped , bills need to be paid . The dream has been forgotten for more important things need to be done like , living life , climbing the ladder , paying the bills , getting famous .

Now the fear is real , we cannot do what we love because we need to keep up , follow the dream of the crowd . So we never ever break free because now SURVIVING is important.

Finally you find most of the beautiful dreams buried under the graveyard.

I believe no one must die with their song in their heart. We have but one life , we must Live it .

Love what you do till you find what you love to do. But for that don’t get trapped in the dream of the crowd and drop the fear . You have nothing to lose .

#passionproject

Sanjay Mudnaney

WHAT WILL THEY SAY

How many dreams have died because of this one sentence “what will they say”. The fear grips from taking that step into the unknown.

We always look for validation, first from parents then from teachers , school mates goes on to bosses.

When we truly look at life we will be shocked that we don’t live OUR lives but we live the EXPECTATIONS of others.

Who defined success as a big bank balance ? a big car , a big home ? Who even put into our head the concept “make a difference” .

All the baggage we carry is heavy, very heavy . And why can we not just be who we are dropping all the baggage of being like what we are expected to be ?

You put out your art into the world, because that is who you are . Some like , some don’t and that is ok , they are just not your audience.

Chase your dreams not the expectations and validation of anyone. Be yourself. It’s that simple .

#passionproject

Sanjay Mudnaney

WHAT IF THIS WAS MY LAST DAY

A strange question to ask in a business blog , but stay on it is relevant.

It is a known fact that we have limited time on planet earth and also it is known that no one knows when the final moment would come.

It will definitely come we know that we are all mortal so what would we do if it were the final day of our life ?

Would we obsessed over our bank balance , or the accumulations or the designation or what people will think of us ?

Or would we rather be ready to die peacefully knowing we have lived our life to the fullest, with no regrets , loved to the fullest , touched lives , given the best we can , lived our calling ?

So what if this as you read is the last day of your life ? and it may as well be. Do you have any regrets ? Is there some song you wanted to sing that you postponed ? Did you love enough ? Did you spend time with those you lived ? Do you make a difference in our world?

Don’t live for survival , you will die anyway!

Don’t die with any regrets of incomplete dreams . Sing your song before it is too late to sing . Don’t die with your song in your heart !

Don’t die with your song in your heart

Sanjay Mudnaney

#passionproject

LIFE IN THE SLOW LANE

All that we learn is to move fast, time is money we are told . And so we get on a treadmill of life . A treadmill that has no stop button.

So we keep running, faster , with the crowd . The treadmill goes nowhere but we feel we are getting some place because it is always in motion.

We look at the fast runners on treadmills, we admire them , we want to be like them , we create idols .

What is this run for ? Fame ? Money ? Desires ? Milestones seems to be reached but the treadmill never stops . School , college, careers … it goes on . We hope one day , one day we will live , till then we live on weekends.

We look at the destination, all the while running. Yet there is none , it never comes , till we drop dead . It is then that the treadmill stops.

What is the need to get on the treadmill, look around , there is life in the slow lane . Press the pause button and we need to reflect what we are chasing .

But when we get into the slow lane we miss the thrill of running on a treadmill that goes nowhere. Slow lane does not seem exciting, we keep looking at others , the Gurus, the idols all telling us to run .

They show off their big homes , the fast cars , the planes .. you are made to feel life is not ok if you don’t join them in the race to nowhere.

Yet when you slow down you meet life , and you see it is not about the destination but life is about the journey.

Did you live ? Did you love ? when you live your gift and spread it out of love , not out of pressure of some imaginary targets .

I got off the treadmill, I live life in the slow lane now , I cycle , I write , I sing , I meditate , I also run passion projects , what I call #blessedwork . And I also do nothing , just reflect , read a book , have a cup of coffee ..

Each day is a great day , slow down , breathe , do what you love , don’t compare , don’t judge , spread love . It’s as simple as that , hit the pause button now ! before it is too late .

Sanjay Mudnaney

#passionproject

ASK THE QUESTION WHY

One of my clients had set a goal in mind , to get a million followers in a defined period. And I told him that is the wrong place to begin.

Why do we do anything , why do we exist , what is the purpose of it all , these are mans deepest questions . Business or career is not distinct from life , it is part of life , it is where we spend most of our time of waking hours once we get past school and college. Yet we see them as distinct compartments. I see life progress in three stages .

If I look back at my own life the three stages I experienced are :

1. Clean Slate : The early years of life are like a clean slate . Nothing is written , and then impressions are formed , by parents , by family , by society , by the education system . What was a clean slate full of possibilities , gets restricted , the open space shrinks . We get defined , what we can do , what we cannot do , what is possible , what is not possible .

The school , the college , everything defines us , we have to be hammered with education and information to fit in , to be part of the crowd. The clean slate slowly gets filled up , possibilities and dreams are killed.

2. The World : We are told now its time to get serious . Till a stage in life we are sheltered by our parents and then we suddenly go out into the world . The period of learning at school and college is over , now we are told yo enter the real world . Finding a career , making money and then more money , running after fame and power , looking for approval .

This is the phase of being on a treadmill that does not have a stop button.

3. Before the End : At some stage the realisation sets in that the pursuit of happiness is an illusion that is shattered by death. We know that all this life as we know it will end some day , we look back at memories . Studies of people at end of life have found that one of the things that most people regret is not having lived their life fully , not having taken the risks , they played safe and chose to follow the crowd .

We see it and yet we do not see it. Before we know the game is over. It’s too late .

So why am I sharing this in #passionproject , because I feel we need to wake up . We do not have unlimited time on the planet earth, we are travellers here . Asking the deeper questions adds meaning to life , to everyday , it is the reason why we wake up every morning.

FREEDOM : When I peel down the layers I find that the deepest desire we all have is for freedom , freedom to live life on our own terms , freedom to find and live expression for our unique gifts , freedom to live from possibility .

CONTRIBUTION : Before we leave this planet , did we make any difference , we were all born with a unique gift . Did we contribute with our gifts ? Did we sing our song .

PASSION : What is that one thing that we are passionate about , that does not feel like work , that we can keep doing whether it is a weekend or a weekday. If we focus on our passion and become the best at something, not in comparison to others but simply perfect our art whatever that maybe we will be deeply fulfilled.

When everyone is running on a treadmill, it is important to pause , get off the treadmill, step back and ask the deeper questions . Don’t just live , but live a meaningful life. You don’t begin with aiming for a number, you begin with asking “Am I singing my song ? and am I having fun on the journey?”

#passionproject

Sanjay Mudnaney

MAKE PASSION YOUR WORK OF ART

When you transcend from surviving to thriving , from being safe to jumping off the cliff so you can fly , when you stretch your wings to take to the sky , when you look at your fear in the eye and walk close , when your work is your art , you are alive !

Pinky is a home maker , she took retirement from her job after 30 years of service to pursue her passion for healthy Vegan cooking . She personally had faced many health issues and going on a whole plant based and raw diet helped her heal , when she experienced personal transformation she wanted to share this with the world , she did this through her passion as a vegan chef ,what could be a better way then to teach a new healthy lifestyle to the world. Tribes are built when a leader experiences transformation and wishes to share good with the world.

Pink’y passion was not money but her desire for meaning in life after 30 years of a corporate career , she wanted to heal those who were suffering disease with whole plant based vegan and raw food lifestyle and she started conducting classes to teach her tribe members the way to live this lifestyle. One by one her tribe was getting healed , she was my first client at my digital payments startup for a online payment link , I was helping her with online bookings of her health classes. I found that Pinky experiences joy in sharing the way of a healthy life , she did this with no expectations. Every day she puts out a message on healthy living through a vegan lifestyle for the benefit of her tribe. As her tribe experienced the benefits through her sharing they began to pay her back by attending her workshops. Her passion is valuable to those who wish to heal their body from toxicity of unhealthy living.

Give your Passion

Give your passion to the world without any expectation , not as a strategy , not being clever , do it to experience the joy of making a difference . Puneet Rao is a fitness coach on Instagram he has been sharing his fitness journey and life with his tribe for many years now . During the lockdown he did this everyday as people were at home, he conducted live sessions on home workouts for the benefit of his tribe. Tribe leaders truly care for their tribe , they want to genuinely help and they do this without any expectations . They are out there , giving everyday , make a difference in the world with their passion.

Puneet later announced a batch for those who wanted to take up his deeper session for fitness for the period of lockdown over a thousand fans signed up for his daily live paid sessions.

Add Value , make it valuable

Dr Pramod Tripathi has been sharing his knowledge on reversing diabetes naturally without medicines through his YouTube channel , he spends a lot of time researching on the subject before he puts out anything . He thinks deeply of the problems diabetics face , the doubts they may have . His mission is educating diabetics with facts and helping them heal. His video on “Should Diabetics Fast” is a super hit because it is a grey area and a question many diabetics have he is helping them ease their pain and find freedom from diabetes. His tribe keeps on growing as the energy of his passion is infectious and adds value to his tribe.

Dr Pramod is on a mission to get one lakh diabetics free of medicines and insulin by 2022.

Everyday is an opportunity to spread joy

Those that succeed do so by giving , contributing adding value , you are in this world for a purpose , and your purpose is to make a difference with your unique gift , when you get up everyday with the joy to give your unique talent to the world , it responds back with love . The energy of giving comes back , multiplied.

Puneet Rao shares his fitness sessions daily on Instagram , he has been doing this for many years now and his tribe has grown. They now trust him and have become raving fans. Pinky shares health vegan recipes daily , Dr Pramod shares honest knowledge of diabetes.

You are not born to survive , you are born to thrive with your unique gifts and when you leave this world you would have left behind your unique fragrance .

The connected world helps us to share our gift , to contribute , to solve a problem , to make life a bit better for someone . Its a long haul , there are no short cuts , it takes time to build the tribe. It does not matter what one does , any job can become an opportunity to demonstrate your art as long as you bring passion to your work . The world needs artists not crowds.

Nurture your unique gift

The deeper you get in nurturing your unique gift , the greater the difference you can make , listen , learn , be thirsty for more. Learning never stops , I spend time on reading everyday, reflecting and nurturing my soul . How many hours of practice would a Serena Williams put in her game ? Steve Jobs learnt the art of connecting with his tribes with storytelling at Pixar , he was a master storyteller . There was magic when he would take stage to launch the next apple product , he perfected the art of story over the years.

A painter immerses in his art perfecting the brush strokes , a singer keeps at his practice to master his vocal chords , a musician spends time perfecting the notes , in every field those that succeed devote time to practice their art , get better and keep learning the new that is emerging.

Size of your tribe does not matter

Pinky has a few hundred tribe members , Dr Pramod has thousands , Beatles had millions , it is not the size that matters , what matters is are you adding value and do you feel good doing what you do.

You are an Artist

An artist is in love of his creation , he is obsessed with creating , when he does his art , time stops and Gods love flows through his work. Whatever maybe your work , be an artist , create art , fall in love with your creation , give your best art to the world , not for the likes and awards , not for what you will get in return but because you are born to share your best gift.

When you transcend from surviving to thriving , from being safe to jumping off the cliff so you can fly , when you stretch your wings to take to the sky , when you look at your fear in the eye and walk close , when your work is your art , you are alive !

#passionproject

Sanjay Mudnaney

Live your Passion .