The fear of unknown is real . Look at the graves , you find worlds greatest treasures buried , dreams that were not lived due to fear .
Look at a child , you find no fear , dancing, jumping , shouting, all the stuff that kids do and are not ok for us to do as adults .
Who made these rules ? The NO has killed many more dreams than anything else in our world. The “No you cannot do this” , “No you cannot have that” , “No you are not good enough .”
And this is filled with , “you Must do this”, “You must stand first” , “You must win”, “You need to have a big house and a bigger car” . Then there is comparison, “look at your friend , he has topped the class and you ?”
Then we have idols , those that we see up there , in every magazine we see their pictures, they have made it , you see their lifestyle and wish you could be like them.
We pick up a job , get into a loan for that dream house , the car . Now we are trapped , bills need to be paid . The dream has been forgotten for more important things need to be done like , living life , climbing the ladder , paying the bills , getting famous .
Now the fear is real , we cannot do what we love because we need to keep up , follow the dream of the crowd . So we never ever break free because now SURVIVING is important.
Finally you find most of the beautiful dreams buried under the graveyard.
I believe no one must die with their song in their heart. We have but one life , we must Live it .
Love what you do till you find what you love to do. But for that don’t get trapped in the dream of the crowd and drop the fear . You have nothing to lose .
All that we learn is to move fast, time is money we are told . And so we get on a treadmill of life . A treadmill that has no stop button.
So we keep running, faster , with the crowd . The treadmill goes nowhere but we feel we are getting some place because it is always in motion.
We look at the fast runners on treadmills, we admire them , we want to be like them , we create idols .
What is this run for ? Fame ? Money ? Desires ? Milestones seems to be reached but the treadmill never stops . School , college, careers … it goes on . We hope one day , one day we will live , till then we live on weekends.
We look at the destination, all the while running. Yet there is none , it never comes , till we drop dead . It is then that the treadmill stops.
What is the need to get on the treadmill, look around , there is life in the slow lane . Press the pause button and we need to reflect what we are chasing .
But when we get into the slow lane we miss the thrill of running on a treadmill that goes nowhere. Slow lane does not seem exciting, we keep looking at others , the Gurus, the idols all telling us to run .
They show off their big homes , the fast cars , the planes .. you are made to feel life is not ok if you don’t join them in the race to nowhere.
Yet when you slow down you meet life , and you see it is not about the destination but life is about the journey.
Did you live ? Did you love ? when you live your gift and spread it out of love , not out of pressure of some imaginary targets .
I got off the treadmill, I live life in the slow lane now , I cycle , I write , I sing , I meditate , I also run passion projects , what I call #blessedwork . And I also do nothing , just reflect , read a book , have a cup of coffee ..
Each day is a great day , slow down , breathe , do what you love , don’t compare , don’t judge , spread love . It’s as simple as that , hit the pause button now ! before it is too late .
One of my clients had set a goal in mind , to get a million followers in a defined period. And I told him that is the wrong place to begin.
Why do we do anything , why do we exist , what is the purpose of it all , these are mans deepest questions . Business or career is not distinct from life , it is part of life , it is where we spend most of our time of waking hours once we get past school and college. Yet we see them as distinct compartments. I see life progress in three stages .
If I look back at my own life the three stages I experienced are :
1. Clean Slate : The early years of life are like a clean slate . Nothing is written , and then impressions are formed , by parents , by family , by society , by the education system . What was a clean slate full of possibilities , gets restricted , the open space shrinks . We get defined , what we can do , what we cannot do , what is possible , what is not possible .
The school , the college , everything defines us , we have to be hammered with education and information to fit in , to be part of the crowd. The clean slate slowly gets filled up , possibilities and dreams are killed.
2. The World : We are told now its time to get serious . Till a stage in life we are sheltered by our parents and then we suddenly go out into the world . The period of learning at school and college is over , now we are told yo enter the real world . Finding a career , making money and then more money , running after fame and power , looking for approval .
This is the phase of being on a treadmill that does not have a stop button.
3. Before the End : At some stage the realisation sets in that the pursuit of happiness is an illusion that is shattered by death. We know that all this life as we know it will end some day , we look back at memories . Studies of people at end of life have found that one of the things that most people regret is not having lived their life fully , not having taken the risks , they played safe and chose to follow the crowd .
We see it and yet we do not see it. Before we know the game is over. It’s too late .
So why am I sharing this in #passionproject , because I feel we need to wake up . We do not have unlimited time on the planet earth, we are travellers here . Asking the deeper questions adds meaning to life , to everyday , it is the reason why we wake up every morning.
FREEDOM : When I peel down the layers I find that the deepest desire we all have is for freedom , freedom to live life on our own terms , freedom to find and live expression for our unique gifts , freedom to live from possibility .
CONTRIBUTION : Before we leave this planet , did we make any difference , we were all born with a unique gift . Did we contribute with our gifts ? Did we sing our song .
PASSION : What is that one thing that we are passionate about , that does not feel like work , that we can keep doing whether it is a weekend or a weekday. If we focus on our passion and become the best at something, not in comparison to others but simply perfect our art whatever that maybe we will be deeply fulfilled.
When everyone is running on a treadmill, it is important to pause , get off the treadmill, step back and ask the deeper questions . Don’t just live , but live a meaningful life. You don’t begin with aiming for a number, you begin with asking “Am I singing my song ? and am I having fun on the journey?”